Strange relationships

Relationships are always interesting in the way they start. I'm often curious about how people get to meet and know each other to finally share common paths of life. In the beggining of the making of a relationship, small details can have a big impact on one's life with time. Sometimes minor events have a ripple effect that affects one's life immensely, something like the butterfly effect. Two persons can get close by mere coincidence, but there are various factors that come to play also, like the environment in which they meet, the mood in which both are, the words that are spoken, the actions from each and lots of minor events or details. It's like the perfect mix, and you have all the ingredients that could trigger love and attachment, thus relationship.

One of the most awkward and still very interesting situation that I've experienced and seen others experience too is somewhow difficult to describe. I believe it is something that happens to each and everone of us at least once in our life.

How does this happen? Well here's how i've experienced it some time back and maybe some of you out there did also. There's a time when you unexpectedly meet someone who shares your daily routine. Someone who since the first time you meet or get to know seems to be special but you don't realise or want to think about it for various reasons. Something inside you shows a growing interest towards that person but you give it to credit that he/she has an interesting personality. Then as time flows by and both get to know each other better, the relationship start to grow into friendship. Each would stay in their corner and enjoy the presence of each other, it is a relationship where mutual appreciation is the bond. However, deep inside each would develop something which is much more than the mere friendship that the outside world would see. Something that happens naturally and you don't do anything to prevent or suppress it. Situations might not make the rise of such feelings appropriate but still you can't help it and start to become closer. At the peak of it, no one would dare reveal what they feel for each other. In fear of loosing or breaking the current relationship. You keep on hesitating between friendship and love. You find yourself so confused and afraid to take any step further. Living with such a feeling is what I think is among the greatest dilemma one could be faced with in terms of relationship. You would not be able to make your mind and would tend to look for slight details or any reaction from the other that could mean he/she has the same feelings or is in the same situation as you are. But even when you do see a reaction that could indicate so, you would still remain confused cause the fear is still there. But then comes the moment of bliss, when yet another detail triggers the actions that makes both the closest ever and the relationship is unveiled. Knwowing that the other has the same feelings as you and realising how deep your feelings are is happinness that is uncomparable. It cannot be described but only experienced...

Insight of the "E" type

Sometimes a single short conversation with someone can open a window to their inner self and it is then that you can really see what is inside. Like I previously described in observer and observed, such moments, if noticed, can tell a lot about one's self.

There are some people who are unlucky or rather believe that they are unlucky in relationships and end up being lonely or single. They then tend to say that their loneliness is the path they chosed so as not to be the subject of conversation of others. Fear of repression has always existed though we continuously deny it, but deep inside it's still there. While some people believe in stories where someone comes to you and says he/she was meant for you, others are more realistic and make things happen. But if everyone were the same then relationship problems would not have existed.

There are some people who have a quite extrovert and a very outgoing personality. Such people have the ability to propagate outwardly what they feel inside very easily and thus create an atmosphere of well being and fun around them. I'll call this personality type "E". While this type of personality always attracts people around and can make the person very popular, it often has some downsides. When reacting to type "E", some people tend to become hesitant to express their feelings and have the impression that the person is unreachable. I believe that this is mainly because the more outgoing one is, the more his/her personality is imposing over others. Not in terms of authority but rather in terms of feelings. This also gives the impression that type "E" is insensitive to feelings and that he/she is happy the way he/she is. In this case, any disruption would be considered as anormal and thus people would rather suppress their feelings and keep their distance even though outwardly they seem close. Sometimes type "E" mask the wounds of a previously broken heart and try vainly to forget that part of their life. They would tend to react outwardly to suppress any feelings inside and seem to be happy. But however outgoing the type "E" is, deep inside there's always a soft heart, waiting to be loved and cared for. It is not always obvious for the common ordinary mortals, but sometimes it can be observed. But still one must open oneself to others for someone to find it one day, suppressing it is only a duality within the self. It's like inviting someone inside your personal area, they would not enter it by themselves if you don't let them in...